In one of my previous content, I spoke about how I would always take my little brother to school and we would discuss and bond and I’ll love to hear his ideas about certain topics and correct his values and belief if I saw the need to.

Today I saw a mom shouting at her little son while she took him to school, the scoldings were so much that the driver had to beg the woman and explain to her that he is just a kid.

My pastor had already taught us that there is a way to correct a child, now I know that we have been taught to scold and spare not the rod when it comes to disciplining our children, your father and mother shouted at you so you feel the balance is that you just reciprocate, what you didn’t know is that the pattern for training the millennials isn’t the same way to train Generation A and B children.

Don’t make your children be scared to share deep things with you when you haven’t created an aura that encourages such conversations.

If you’re child is in senior secondary, you could watch movies like Best friends in the world and ASK QUESTIONS so that you could see their perspective about things.

I share a lot of conversations with my brother and I find it funny that he makes money from affiliate marketing without paying a dime, he has made more money and gained more knowledge by discussing with me.

Most times he meets me with boring topics but it’s not really about the topic, it’s about the intimacy, your child comes back from school and shows you a picture of you that looks like a cartoon and tells you, I drew a picture of you Dad and you push him away, you didn’t just push him away but you did something to his ego, his heart and his connection to you.

So I’ve outlined ways that you could be more intimate with your children

1. Watch movies with them. Movies can be a good way to get to show them certain aspects of life especially movies that aren’t rated above 15

2. Take them for recreation

Play games with them, take them for dinners, take them shopping, you could give them a wish of one particular present and get it for them if it’s affordable.

I remember one time when Sir Ejimi’s daughter was asking him to grant her the wish to give out her toys. Lol it is a very funny wish 😂

3. Tell them stories

My Dad does this alot, he would tell of stories of how he got his first car, people who helped him become who he is, people that he had helped.

I want to believe that Joseph’s father, Jacob told him stories about God that strengthened him while he was sold to slavery. In the beginning of the movie”THE SHACK” The actor was telling a story of how a princess sacrificed herself to save her community, It made a powerful memory for both the dad and the daughter even though few days later she was kidnapped.

4. Hugs and compliment

How many times do you tell your children that you love them?

Do you congratulate them or do you remind the that their heads are the same with those who probably scored better, there is a place of healthy competitions but the line is thin sometimes.

5. Have a ritual with them

I was told that I wouldn’t sleep until my Dad came back when I was little, well the truth was that he made tea for me every night, so I looked forward to drinking tea with him.

What do your children look forward to with you?

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