On a special day this year, there was power shortage so I couldn’t iron the clothes I planned to wear to work, I wore the rumpled shirt to work, on my way to work I felt that all eyes were looking at my shirt, it got worse when the person kept staring or looked twice at me.

Most of us go through this experience, it could be a part of the body that you’re not comfortable with, maybe you forgot to brush your hair, wear an accessory, polish your shoes, mistakenly wore your clothes backward, or a part of the cloth just got torn.

Or let’s raise the stakes higher, When you don’t have much money when going out, you don’t have enough confidence, expertise, eloquence, courage or beauty compared to a competitor.

Years ago, I gave a scenario about two ladies sitting down, just try to walk up to them and tell them, “One if you is very beautiful, the other person I can’t say the same” you’ll immediately notice the inferior (One who thinks She isn’t pretty enough) showing signs of discomfort or what we would term as insecurity.

It’s okay to be human, and being human means you will always see someone better, cuter, prettier than you, But it doesn’t mean you should look down on yourself but you should know you’re better than someone and for that reason you hold yourself high. Know your worth.

Back to my initial story, while people kept looking at me, I had to convince myself that I rocked the rumpled Shirt so good that they could not help admiring me, I changed my mindset, so when they looked at me, my mind told me “Aww He/She is feeling the boy”

Now it might not be what they were thinking but it didn’t matter because it didn’t get to me. Did you know that there are warm and cold ocean currents but that doesn’t affect the Ship (well it affects the Ship’s speed and climate like dogs that affects ship’s visibility) but the passengers are not bothered because the Ship has built a safer environment inside that makes what happens outside the vessel not a major concern for its passengers.

The beautiful thing about changing my mindset was that I got compliments from people that I looked great because your mind greatly affects your behavior and how you carry yourself.

When the Bible said we should meditate on whatsoever that is true, honest and worthy of honor. It really meant business.

Back then in secondary school, I was among those selected to be part of the interview for those nominated to be prefects. But I went into that Interview with a superior inferior complex. Lol a very low perspective of myself that even when I was asked to nominate someone for the post I wanted, I nominated someone else (Let me laugh sha)

The Best way to defeat inferiority complex is to see yourself as valuable, See yourself the way God sees you, Find your value first, this would help you to nurture your identity.

Hope you found value?

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