ACTRESS SARAH MARTINS URGES WOMEN TO STAND BY RESPONSIBLE MEN

 

NEWS RIDER

Nollywood actress Sarah Martins has urged women not to abandon men who have genuinely supported and provided for them simply because they later experience financial hardship. Her comments came amid a fresh relationship debate involving social media personality Saida Boj, whose views on financial responsibility in relationships have continued to divide opinion online.

 

SARAH MARTINS URGES WOMEN TO STAND BY RESPONSIBLE MEN

Nollywood actress Sarah Martins on Tuesday, October 6, 2026, joined the growing conversation over money, responsibility and loyalty in relationships after social media personality Saida Boj made remarks about what women should do when a man can no longer provide.

Martins took to her Instagram page, @officialsarahmartins, to offer a different perspective, urging women to remember the support they received from a man before judging him solely by his present financial situation.

She wrote: “If he has been providing and life happens to him and you’re in a position to support him pls my sister don’t give up on your man .”

Martins also said: “If you have a man or a husband that has been there for you, that has provided for you, I mean a provider kind of man, and along the line, life happens to him, please don’t give up on your man.”

Her message was built around one central idea: a man’s temporary financial difficulty should not automatically erase the years of support he may have given his partner or family.

Martins argued that where a woman has the ability to help a previously responsible partner through a difficult period, she should consider doing so rather than immediately walking away.

She also made it clear that she was not asking women to carry men who are deliberately lazy or unwilling to contribute.

The distinction, therefore, is between a man who cannot provide because circumstances have changed and one who simply refuses to take responsibility.

 

MARTINS SAYS SHE HAS ALSO SUPPORTED A MAN FINANCIALLY

The actress did not present her argument only as an abstract relationship theory.

According to reports on her response, Martins said she had previously fed a man, paid his rent and provided for him.

She maintained that she would be willing to do the same again for a genuinely good man who had previously shown responsibility.

Her position introduces another side to the often-repeated idea that the man must always be the provider. For Martins, a relationship should not necessarily become meaningless when the person who once carried the financial burden suddenly needs help.

In other words, provision can be a two-way street at different stages of a relationship.

A man may support his partner when he is financially stronger, while the woman may later support him when circumstances change. That, in Martins’ view, is part of what partnership should mean.

 

WHAT SAIDA BOJ SAID ABOUT MEN AND PROVISION

The debate follows comments by Saida Boj in which she argued that women should not remain with men who stop fulfilling their financial responsibilities.

A report published on October 6, 2026, described Martins’ comments specifically as a response to Saida’s position that women should leave men who can no longer provide.

That position fits into a pattern of public comments for which Saida has become known: her insistence that financial capacity is an important consideration when women choose or evaluate male partners.

Her approach has repeatedly generated arguments because some people view financial provision as an important part of a man’s responsibility, while others believe relationships should be based on partnership rather than a permanent one-sided financial arrangement.

 

THE OCTOBER 1 “PUSH GIFT” CONTROVERSY

The latest dispute also comes shortly after another controversial comment by Saida Boj.

On Thursday, October 1, 2026, Saida criticised women who became emotional after receiving basic baby items from their husbands as “push gifts.”

In a video shared online, she questioned why a woman would celebrate receiving items such as Pampers, baby bottles or baby food after giving birth.

Her argument was that such items are basic necessities for a newborn and should not necessarily be presented as extraordinary gifts from a husband.

She also argued that women who go through pregnancy and childbirth deserve to be appreciated and celebrated, rather than having the attention shift entirely to the baby.

Saida further maintained that the arrival of children should not cause a husband to stop prioritising his wife.

That October 1 discussion and her broader comments about male provision have fed into the current conversation about what women should expect from men and what men should expect in return.

However, the October 1 “Pampers” comment should not be described as the direct cause of Martins’ October 6 response unless Sarah herself specifically said it was. The available October 6 reports frame Martins’ response around Saida’s position on men who stop providing.

 

WHY THE TWO WOMEN’S POSITIONS ARE DIFFERENT

At first glance, both women are discussing money in relationships, but they are approaching the issue from different directions. Saida’s position places strong emphasis on a man’s ability and willingness to provide.

Martins’ argument focuses more on what happens when circumstances change after a man has already demonstrated that he can and will provide.

That difference is important.

There is a major distinction between a man who has never wanted to work or contribute and a man who loses his job, suffers business failure, experiences an economic setback or simply goes through a difficult season.

 

MARRIAGE AND THE QUESTION OF “FOR BETTER OR WORSE”

At the heart of the argument is an old question about what commitment means.

Marriage is often described as a partnership that survives both good and difficult seasons.

If one partner is financially strong today and the other is stronger tomorrow, should the relationship end simply because the balance has changed?

Martins’ answer appears to be no provided the man has genuinely been responsible and is still willing to work, contribute and rebuild.

 

SARAH MARTINS’ OWN EXPERIENCE WITH MARRIAGE

Martins’ comments are also interesting because she has previously spoken publicly about her own experience with marriage.

In a May 12, 2024 interview, she said she married at the age of 19 and later described the marriage as having ended badly.

She said: “I used to believe so much in love until I got played by my ex husband whom I married at the age of 19 as a virgin.”

She added that the experience changed her outlook, saying her happiness and peace of mind now come first.

That history gives some context to her current position.

Her argument is not simply that women should tolerate everything a man does.

Rather, she appears to be drawing a line between a genuinely good man experiencing hardship and a man who continually fails to take responsibility.

 

MARTINS HAS PREVIOUSLY PRAISED GENEROSITY IN MEN

Her latest comments also fit with something she said in an earlier interview about the qualities she appreciates in men.

In May 2024, Martins said:

“A giver, be a giver, continue to be a giver and never stop being a giver. Every giver has a very special place in my heart and every giver is specially created by God.”

Her public comments have therefore consistently placed value on generosity.

But her latest position adds another dimension: if someone has been generous to you for years and later needs help, generosity should not suddenly become a one-way expectation.

 

PROFILE OF SARAH MARTINS

Sarah Martins, whose full name is Chukwukere Sarah Ujunwa, is a Nigerian actress, content creator, entrepreneur and philanthropist.

She studied at Owerri Girls’ Secondary School and later obtained OND and HND qualifications from Ken Saro-Wiwa Polytechnic before earning a bachelor’s degree from the University of Port Harcourt.

She began her acting career in 2016 and has appeared in films including The Widows, Dangerous Mad Man, The Gods Are Wise, Family Lies and Feast of the Spirits.

Martins has also developed a public reputation for charity and giving.

In a July 2026 interview, she said she had cooked for as many as 1,000 people at once, explaining that she funded and prepared the food herself.

Her public image, therefore, extends beyond acting to philanthropy, entrepreneurship and outspoken commentary on social and relationship issues.

 

DETAILS ON SAIDA BOJ BIOGRAPHY

Saida Boj is the public name of Sarah Idaji Ojone, a Nigerian social media personality and content creator.

She was born on September 4, 2001, and is widely reported to have links to Kogi State, while she was raised partly in Agbor, Delta State. She is the eldest of four siblings.

She studied Mass Communication at the American University of Nigeria, Yola, and began her career as a content creator before gaining wider attention online. TheCable reported that her visibility increased after Instagram personality Tunde Ednut shared her videos.

Saida has also expressed an interest in acting.

However, it is her outspoken views on relationships, dating, money and gender expectations that have made her one of Nigeria’s most controversial social-media personalities.

 

SAIDA’S 2024 CONTROVERSY CHANGED HER PUBLIC IMAGE

Saida’s reputation for controversial relationship commentary became much stronger after her appearance on The Honest Bunch podcast in May 2024.

During the interview, she discussed her expectations of men and said a man would need to pay ₦20 million for sexual access to her.

She also discussed dating a married man and said she regretted the experience. TheCable reported that she said the man had money but did not financially support her as she expected. The interview triggered widespread criticism.

Her social-media accounts were subsequently suspended or taken down amid the backlash, according to contemporary reports. Since then, Saida has remained a prominent figure in online debates about modern relationships.

 

SEUN KUTI DEFENDED SAIDA BOJ

Saida’s controversial views have not attracted criticism from everyone.

On May 30, 2024, Afrobeat singer Seun Kuti defended her amid the backlash.

Kuti accused Nigerians of hypocrisy, arguing that male musicians regularly express similar attitudes towards money and women in their music without receiving the same level of condemnation.

His intervention introduced a gender-double-standard argument into the controversy. Some people agreed with him, saying Saida had the right to establish her own standards in relationships, even if others considered those standards unreasonable.

 

ERIGGA TOOK A VERY DIFFERENT POSITION

Rapper Erigga, on the other hand, strongly criticised Saida following her 2024 podcast appearance. He questioned her financial expectations and called for the authorities to investigate her claims.

The disagreement later became personal, with Saida responding to Erigga and the rapper firing back.

Erigga eventually said: “I no fit wear off-white come Dey drag with pig.”

The exchange became another example of how Saida’s relationship opinions frequently move beyond ordinary disagreement into heated celebrity confrontations.

 

DOYIN DAVID ALSO CRITICISED HER VIEWS

Former Big Brother Naija housemate Doyin David also criticised aspects of Saida’s position during the 2024 controversy.

Doyin argued that a man is not automatically financially responsible for a woman he is not married to and that women should not feel entitled to a man’s money.

Her argument focused on the difference between a voluntary act of generosity and an obligation imposed on someone who has not accepted that responsibility.

 

BLESSING CEO AND SAIDA’S PUBLIC CLASH

Relationship commentator Blessing CEO has also publicly disagreed with Saida.

In November 2024, Blessing described Saida as a kind of “mini me” while criticising her approach to relationships.

The exchange eventually became another social-media confrontation between two women who are both known for strong opinions about relationships.

Their clash demonstrated another feature of Saida’s public career: her relationship commentary does not simply generate opinions from ordinary social-media users; it frequently draws responses from other prominent personalities.

 

THOSE WHO SUPPORT SARAH MARTINS

Many people who agree with Martins’ latest message see it as a reminder that relationships should involve reciprocity.

Their argument is straightforward: if a man spent years providing for his wife and family, it would be unfair to abandon him immediately because he encountered financial difficulties.

Some also argue that modern relationships should allow women to support their partners financially when they have the means.

For these supporters, being a provider does not mean a man must remain financially strong every single day of his life. They see a temporary reversal of roles as part of genuine partnership.

 

THOSE WHO SUPPORT SAIDA BOJ

Supporters of Saida’s broader position argue that financial stability is a legitimate consideration when choosing a partner.

They believe women should not remain indefinitely in relationships where a man refuses to work, contribute or meet responsibilities.

From this perspective, “supporting your man” should not become an excuse for women to carry men who have stopped trying.

Some also argue that women should be free to define the kind of relationship they want, including their expectations around financial provision.

 

THOSE CRITICISING SAIDA BOJ

Critics, however, believe her statements can make relationships sound too transactional.

They argue that a healthy partnership cannot be reduced to how much money a man can provide.

For these critics, a man’s income may be important, but so are character, emotional support, loyalty, responsibility and willingness to build a future together.

They also worry that young people consuming highly transactional relationship content may begin to measure love primarily through money and material benefits.

 

THE NEUTRAL VIEW: BOTH WOMEN ARE TALKING ABOUT DIFFERENT PROBLEMS

A more balanced reading shows that Martins and Saida may actually be addressing two different relationship problems. Saida’s argument speaks to women who are stuck with men who refuse to take responsibility.

Martins’ argument speaks to women whose partners have taken responsibility but later encounter hardship.

Those are not the same situation.

A man who loses his business after years of supporting his family is different from a man who has never wanted to work.

A woman who temporarily supports her husband while he rebuilds is different from a woman who is forced to carry a permanently irresponsible partner.

The important question, therefore, is not simply:

“Should a woman provide for a man?”

The better question is:

“What has the man contributed, why has his situation changed, and is he still willing to take responsibility?”

 

 

Additionally, actress Sarah Martins’ October 6, 2026 intervention has added another layer to the debate sparked by Saida Boj’s views on men, money and relationships.

Martins’ message is that a woman should not quickly abandon a man who has genuinely been there for her simply because he has fallen on hard times.

Saida’s broader position places greater emphasis on a man’s ability to provide and meet financial expectations.

Both perspectives appeal to different experiences. But the most meaningful point lies somewhere between them.

A man should not be valued only for his money, but neither should financial responsibility be ignored in a serious relationship.

A woman should not be expected to carry a man who refuses to contribute, but she should also not be encouraged to abandon a responsible partner simply because he has encountered a difficult season.

Ultimately, relationships are tested not only when there is plenty, but also when there is little. And sometimes the real measure of partnership is not who provides when everything is going well, but whether both people are willing to stand together when life changes.

The debate sparked by Sarah Martins and Saida Boj therefore goes beyond social-media drama. It raises a question many couples eventually have to answer for themselves: When the person who once carried you can no longer carry everything, are you willing to carry some of the weight to.

 

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